Men In Lingerie: Is It Wrong For Me To Wear Panties?
Now there's a title that's almost so stupid I wouldn't have written on it if it weren't for the fact that it's sometimes the apparently stupid, simple things in life that trip us up. I also know that many men who want to wear lingerie feel overwhelming senses of guilt about it, even to the point where their self esteem is affected.
If you're struggling with a desire to wear women's panties or other items of women's lingerie and wondering why you're a 'freak', I have some good news for you. Every month, thousands of men come to read these articles, some leave comments, some move on like shadows in the night, but most of them have the same interests as you do - they're men with an interest in women's lingerie. Most of them are straight, and a decent proportion of them are married with children.
Sometimes when we want something that isn't supported by the general media and those around us, we think that there must be something inherently wrong with us. Of course, if we stop to think about things for a few moments, we can soon realize that this is not the case.
If you spend a few hours watching TV, you'll come away with messages like
It's okay for men to sleep around, it's what they do. It's okay for men to be violent, as long as they're beating up the 'bad guy'. No matter how overweight the man is, his partner must be svelte and blonde. (Just my personal tv bugbear there, what on earth is up with that? For some reason when they put sitcoms together it's completely believable that a guy on an average income who hasn't seen his toes in a decade would be married to a woman who looks like she starts each day with a handful of diet pills and a colonic.) Men don't cry. Men are always masculine and manly. They can put up shelves just by looking at them, and not only will they not ask for directions, a real man will wait for nightfall and navigate by the stars.
Men are bombarded with ridiculous masculine stereotypes to the point where they feel guilty if they don't meet them. Women get a little more of a free ride mostly because we've been screaming about equality for the past several decades. We can wear menswear without fear of being called a lesbian, in fact, more often than not, it is regarded as being kind of cute.
Men might not be ready to fight for their own brand of equality yet, but that doesn't mean that its wrong for a man to wear panties or any other item of clothing he feels like putting on. Logically you may know this, but if you're struggling with guilt, it may be time to start living it as a truth. Put those panties on. Notice how you don't immediately become gay. Notice how you are no less of a man. Notice the relief you feel when you work with your own nature instead of fighting against it.
It is okay to be you.
